When Life Moves On And You Don’t Want It To: -Christy Hardy

     From our earliest memory to our current state, there are times in our life that we wish time could just stand still for a while. For example, when you were on that sweet little vacation as a child with your family in Gatlinburg. You remember going to feed the deer. You remember the time your dad stopped for your mom to feed the bear while you were yelling “The sign says ‘Don’t feed the bear’!” You remember how your heart fearfully pounded in your chest as she gets out to feed the cub a cheese curl. After a moment, you relax just enough to smile at how sweet that baby cub looks eating those cheese curls your mom was now handing him instead of tossing to him. Then, all of a sudden, momma bear comes out of the woods, and your mom was out of cheese curls. She ran back to the jeep without a cover where we were watching as my dad was frantically trying to start the jeep! Your life flashed before your very eyes before the jeep dashed away! It wasn’t long before your sadness turned to anger and you declared “I told you that sign said not to feed the Bears!” Time stand still, but it moves on.     You remember the daredevil family jeep rides you did not want to go on, so they finally let you spend every Friday night with your MaMal. Whew! What a relief that was! Oh what blessed memories you have of those sleepovers! You would watch Knot’s Landing, Dallas, and Falcon Crest every Friday night. Afterwards, you both would go out and sit on her rocking chairs on the front porch and listen to the bugs and talk. Papal would argue about how spoilt you were, but every night she would crawl up in the bed with you to talk before you fell asleep! Every Saturday morning, she would fix you cocoa biscuits and bacon with milk to drink at your request. Yum! You remember what an awesome cook she was: those baked apple pies with commodity cheese, those cocoa biscuits, those green beans you helped he pick and snap with all that grease cooked into them, those peas… That cornbread and milk! Oh how you wished time could just stand still, but it moves on.

     You remember times spend with your Grandmother. You remember as a child watching her chew her food so much and seeing if you could chew your burger that many times. You were exhausted after eating you chewed so much. You remember riding in her cool sports car till the day she passed away. Time stand still, but it moves on.

     You remember the bad things that happened in your family as drugs steal one of your family members away for years. Time just needs to stand still, but it moves on while on the inside your world has stopped. Your dad, who despite his muscular dystrophy, always said he would never go to a wheelchair. He had an injury that took a while to heal, and he had to go to a wheelchair. Time stand still, please; but it moves on. Your mom was diagnosed with cancer and told she would have to have treatment. Time stand still, but it moves on.  

     You have some awesome memories like your dad teaching you how to drive. You laugh and talk. You go through three different states in one driving session. Time stand, still but it moves on. Your dream to become a feature twirler at your high school comes true. You are having the time of your life! Time stand still, but it moves on. Your twirling group wins a national championship title! Time stop, but it moves on. You begin to go to church, and you come to know the Lord! You become a part of the family of God who helps you know the Lord and helps you grow in your faith. You begin to serve the Lord In that church as a teenager. Time stand still, but it moves on! You graduate from high school as Valedictorian. You courageously give your speech in front of your class. Time stand still, but it moves on! You go on a summer mission trip to New York and love every minute of it. You know that is what the Lord wants you to do the rest of your life! Time stand still, but it moves on.

     When you return home, you head to UA as planned with your parents not so happy with your life goal changes. Time stand still, but it moves on. You look and look for a church in Tuscaloosa, but nothing is like your church back home. Time stand still, but it moves on. You devour the books and make the grades. Time stand still, but it moves on. You change your mind; you change your plans. You really want a family before you pursue God’s plans. Time stand still, but it moves on. You take your last exam the day of your wedding rehearsal… Time stand still, but it moves on.

     You are married for two long, unhappy years before you find out you have a little one on the way. Perhaps this precious little girl will make this marriage the happily ever after one you always dreamed of. Time stand still, but it moves on. Constant fear is a part of your every day life. There are many times you beg God to just make time stand still, but it moves on.  

     Your daughter is born! Oh what love your heart is now holding, feeding, cuddling, and caring for! Oh what a gift from the Lord! Time stand still, but it moves on. You love the smile, the coos, the cries, the midnight feedings… You bask in the beauty of it all and wish time would stand still, but it moves on. It is time to start school, and her tears and your tears ask God to just let time stand still, but it moves on. All the homework and the spelling practice. Oh how your heart loved planning the princess birthday parties and so forth! Time stand still, but it moves on. Problems worsen, and you have to leave three times for a while and then permanently move away from you own home. There was no other option. So many attempts to save the marriage had failed. Divorce happens. Time stand still, but it moves on. You feel like your life is over now; and God is just done with you. Your feel like your life of drama is because you failed to do what He asked you to do years ago. Then one unexpected day in 2011, things began to change! God stepped in and spoke truth to your heart. He was not done with you. You still had a purpose, and He would see it was completed. He began to change your perspective! You got into the Word and began soaking it in like never before. You were resurrected from doormat to dancer! You were raised to praise Him! He told you to get up and go complete your life’s mission. He was about to do a new and better thing in and through you. Time stand still, but it moves on! Middle school for my daughter came and went; high school came and passed quickly. Time stand still, but it moves on. You practice with your own daughter and give her lessons on driving which is quiet a new perspective than when you were learning to drive! Whew! Time stand still, but it moves on!

     Your mom and dad are both sick at the same time. Your dad passes away a couple weeks later. Time stand still, but it moves on. Your mom gets more sick. She is hurting from your dad passing away. She almost dies before your very eyes, but her life is spared for about two more years. Time stand still, but it moves on. She lives with you for those two years and laughs and cries with you. You love taking care of her. Sometimes it gets hard, but you love it. You love her. Time stand still, but it moves on.  

     Your daughter graduated high school! Time stand still, but it moves on. Your mom goes to the hospital for about the sixth time in two years, and this time she doesn’t come home with you. Time stand still, but it moves on.  

     What do You do now? You understand now the verse that says in James 4:14-15 “Why, you do not even know what will happen tomorrow. What is your life? You are a mist that appears for a little while and then vanishes. Instead, you ought to say, “If it is the Lord’s will, we will live and do this or that.” Though you want time to stand still at times, it will move on. God asks you to forget what is behind and move on, press on, toward the goals God has for you as He calls you heavenward! What a prize You have to work toward! What a prize of His Presence You have to help you as you move on when you don’t feel like moving on. You have no need to fear because His Word promises He goes before you and stands behind you (Duet. 31:8). You can move on being confident that He who started a good work in you will bring it to completion. (Phil. 1:6). You know that no matter what happens as you move on in life that He is working all things out for your good! (Romans 8:28). He has good plans for your future, and they are better than you can think to ask for. (Jeremiah 29:11, Ephesians 3:20-21). You can rest in His promises that are all yes for you in Christ! (2 Corinthians 1:20). Nothing or no one can separate you from His everlasting, unfailing love! (Romans 8:38-39). You know You are more than a conqueror in this life through Him! (Romans 8:37). You want to know and do God’s will! Whatever that means for you, you know you can do anything through Him (Philippians 4:13). If you dwell in Him, He will produce the fruit in and through you. (John 15:5). Time will not stand still for you. Move on, in Jesus name! Glory to God, no matter what! That, my friend, is my story and my commitment. Is it yours?

-Christy Hardy


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